Original post by Lisa:
My understanding of what you said is that the 4th house is how you were parented and also how you parent your own children. What if we parent our children very differently than the way we were parented? For instance, I relate to my Capricorn 4th house as the way that my authoritarian parents raised me. Because of the way they raised me, I chose to raise my kids with a lot less rules, boundaries and limitations. How is that accounted for in the chart? Thanks!
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Ari's response:
Hi Lisa,
Exactly in the way you expressed. The evolutionary process of Capricorn, which is one of introspection and taking personal-responsibility/ cultivating our own inner authority is here expressed as unravelling your own personal conditioning and establishing a framework for parenting that reflects your own inner compass.
On another level, the nurturing imprinting we receive is relevant to our ongoing soul evolutionary needs. This doesn’t mean we will defacto continue to exhibit the same behaviours of our parents, but we may be evolving the archetypes in the 4th house to a more healed expression as we mature spiritually. There can be many different kinds of examples of this depending on our unique evolutionary needs. Capricorn in the 4th will naturally, as a general rule, be dealing with learning emotional maturity: a grounded framework for healthy emotional growth; a healthy and stable self-image. This means learning how to nurture and raise a family with boundaries that are caring, loving, and necessary without being too lose (and thus not providing adequate care and protection) or too harsh (thus inducing shame and emotional repression). Unravelling conditioning, where there were too many rules, judgements etc, or where boundaries weren’t upheld will often be a part of this.
Lastly, as we do this work for our own selves we will often be able to naturally arrive at a point of insight as to why we each experienced the kind of emotional imprinting we grew up with in the sense that it provided the framework from which we can continue our own evolutionary work.
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Lisa response:
That makes sense. Thank you, Ari.